Monday, 21 November 2011

School dating violence

Feelings , emotions and attraction toward opposite sex is a natural
phenomenon and now days dating in schools is common. It resulted in a
new sort of violence which may be called school dating violence. It is
very much like the adult domestic violence. it can be physical abuse
leading to injury or even death in some cases ,but in a school
relationship the most of the abuse is emotional and verbal. Abuses
includes threatening to leave her or finding someone else or he tells
the girl no one will love her ,he will not let anyone love her ,she is
lucky to have him ,he will tell everyone about sex. He also tries to
break down the girl emotionally and destroy her self esteem.
sexual abuse also forms the part of school dating violence. This
include everything starting from unwillingly kissing or touching ,
forcing himself on her ,leading to sex and not letting a girl use
With the generation gap parents are unable to imagine only that their
daughter can face such violence with school friend. most of the
parents or adults are not even aware about this issue. Its the
responsibility of parents to see the warning signs which can be any
one or all of the signs listed below
1) Boy becoming everything for the girl.
2) girl dropping out of school activities.
3) Their grades may suffer.
4) Girl spending more time in her bedroom.
5) Girl showing signs of depression or aggressive behaviour
An abusive boyfriend also isolates her from her family and friend to
make her feel insecure and make her feel that he is the only person
she needs all the time for everything. He make her feel that he is the
only person who understand her and care about her.
Most of the girls couldn't even identify a abusive relationship. Its
not easy for a girl to leave such a abusive relationship even though
unlike adult domestic violence they don't have children and not
financially dependent on their partners. Still she will be reluctant
to leave the relationship because of shame ,embarrassment by friends
about her relationship.
The solution to this is prevention and awareness about the dating
violence . Special counsellors should be there in school for making
young teen girls aware about the violence and make them not to accept
it on face. Education on the sex and relationships should be imparted
to make them aware of the condition they might land in future. parents
should keep watch on their children and should counsel them on this
subject if they see any signs on their children. Mother plays
important part as she is the one with whom daughter can share her
life. one thing which parents should keep in mind that this age is of
adolescence and their children may argue with them or not listen to
them . Keep in mind when your growing children say they don't need
your advice ,its the time when they are in maximum of the need.
parents should keep their calm and handle things in a cool way. This
way School dating violence can be reduced to minimum or some day to
Don't let our young sisters and friend suffer from the hands of a demon.

Contribution by : Adhoora Khwaab

Friday, 21 October 2011

Domestic Violence 101

Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, battering, family violence, and intimate partner violence (IPV), has been broadly defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation. Domestic violence, so defined, has many forms, including physical aggression (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation. Alcohol, or drug consumption and mental illness can be co-morbid with abuse, and present additional challenges when present alongside patterns of abuse.

Awareness, perception, definition and documentation of domestic violence differs widely from country to country, and from era to era. According to some studies, less than 1 percent of domestic violence cases are reported to the police. According to the Centers for Disease Control, domestic violence is a serious, preventable public health problem.

Again, Domestic Violence is not only physical! It is:
· Physical
· Sexual
· Emotional
· Verbal
· Economic
Sometimes violence that is not physical could be much harder and with deeper impact on human soul. Each category will be discussed in details later.
See you later folks, with the special October awareness campaign for Domestic Violence Against Women!

Contribution by : Eman Hashim @EmanHashim

Wednesday, 12 October 2011


Women are supposed to be weak. We often hear the phase 'Crying like a woman'. Why so? Women are in many ways more stronger than men. A woman takes care of her children, parents, and husband, prepares the food, and can carry a baby in her stomach for 9 months, which is not an easy task.

A girl is always taught from her childhood, that this is not her home, her home is her in-laws' home, and she's taught to adjust for small and even big problems, because of social pressure, what will people say, and all that. So she goes to her husband's home with a mindset, that has been made for her. She's many times molested, severely beaten, and tortured mentally too, sometimes because of dowry. She has a mindset, and she keeps following it, and afraid to take a stand, and sometimes she's so much tortured, that no option is left for her, but to commit suicide. That's because of that mindset, that woman is supposed to be weak, and she must adjust. Woman should realize that she's no way weaker than any man. She must be proud of the fact that she's a woman. She must be strong, and should not tolerate any molestation on her. She must tell anyone who is close to her, preferably in police, who can help her out. She should not end her life because of this.

We must teach our girl child, that she must not tolerate any kind of injustice on her, and if any problem occurs, she must tell her closed ones about it, and her closed ones should not shut her mouth saying that 'log kya kahenge', because what will people say, is immaterial, and is nothing compared to her life. She must not tolerate any injustice; adjustments are done from both sides. Dear woman, be strong, Don't let anyone bring you down. Stand against the domestic violence, and people, stop creating social pressure on women.

Contribution by Rishabh Kohli @rishh_libran

Tuesday, 13 September 2011

Why I started Fight Against Abuse

Lots of women and children are being abused in some way or the other in every part of the world. I personally feel that the percentage of women and children being abused is on an increase. In India every day on news we all get to hear about cases relating to rape, molestation, eve teasing, dowry death, harassment etc. We all have to work to stop this evil menace.

Keeping all this in mind , I have created Fight Against Abuse Cause ( FAAC ) on Facebook and @fight_abuse on Twitter because I wanted to create awareness about the trauma faced women and children who are being abused. I would like to work with women and children who are being abused and help them over come the trauma they have gone through or may still be going through .I would like to make this my career option as this cause is very close to my heart and I personally feel that enough is not being done to help these victims of abuse.

Even when I am facing discouragement and resistance from some individuals I will not give up till I succeed. If anyone who is interested in being a part of this cause is free to join us to make the fight stronger. Please feel free to leave a story you have read or heard, an experience you have gone through in your life or any sort of information you would like to share regarding the subject.

I have created an e-mail id for this cause feel drop me a line. Email:

Saturday, 6 August 2011

Sexual Violence

Sexual violence is faced by women , girls and children every day. There are different types of sexual violence faced by the victims in schools, at work, doctor's surgeries etc.

What is sexual assualt?

Sexual assault is a crime in which there is unwanted touching or forced sexual contact with another person, from touching you to someone forcing you to have sexual contact with them against your will.

Acts of indecency and indecent assault

Sexual assault is grouped into different types of groups of offences, they are :

* Acts of indecency : Where the person shows his genitals and masturbates in public.

* Indecent assualt : Where he touches you indecently, for example your breast or genitals or anus or makes you touch his genitals.

Aggravated sexual assualt :

Person may be charged with more serious offence of aggravated sexual assault if :

* he physically hurts you during a sexual assualt

* you are under 16

* he uses a weapon

* you have a serve disability

* he is someone in authority

These are aggravating factors.

Child sexual assault and incest

It is against the law for an adult to have sex with someone under 16. This is called child sexual assualt.

It is against to have sexual contact with his mother, sister, daughter or granddaughter, whatever her age, This crime is called incest.

Sexual assault within marriage

This is a crime. A man does not have an automatic right to have sex with his wife ( partner ). If he does it without her consent, he can be charged with sexual assault, even though she has been willing to have sex with him at other times.

Sexual harassment

Sexual harassment can be whistles , unwanted comments , threats , verbal abuse or unwanted exposure to sexual material.

Why rapist do it?

* Sexual assault is used to intimidate the victim. It gives the man power over her.

* Some men think women and children belong to them, so they have to abuse them.

Remember :

* Sexual assault is always the offender's fault, never the victim's.

* Sexual assault is not uncommon. It is a crime experienced by many women, children and some men.

Monday, 11 July 2011

Child Abuse

Its is not always easy to identify when a child has been abused.Children who go through the trauma of child abuse are mistreated and are often afraid to tell anyone, because they think if they tell someone no one will believe them. Children who are abused remain silent because the person who has abused them is someone they love. Parents at times tend to overlook the signs and symptoms of their child being abused because they don't want to face the truth and this is a very big mistake. A child who has been abused needs support and help to over come the trauma as soon as possible. The longer the abuse continues and if the child is left alone to deal with the longer it will for the child to over come the trauma. Parents should be alert about the change in their child's behavior.

If your child comes up to you and informs you that he/ she has been abused in some form or the other never ignore it get something done instead before its too late.

Ignoring a child's needs , putting them in dangerous situations, making them feel they are not worth it , making them feel they are stupid and they do not know anything is also known as child abuse.

Always try to fulfill your child's needs never make them feel they are worthless etc. Your child needs your love , care and support always be there for them no matter what.

Lets make a difference and make this planet a safer place for the children and the future generations.

Wednesday, 22 June 2011

Everyone is Responsible

Every One Is Responsible To Look Over, Protect And Care For The Children Of This World. Child Abuse Appears To Have Become So Common Place That Some Believe It Is A Futile Effort To Attempt To Stop It.

I Reject That Thought.

My Main Focus Is On What Appears To Be A Growing Epidemic. There Are A Growing Number Of Horrific Cases Of Abuse In Households That Have Previous Reports Of Abuse. Over And Over Again News Stories Are Reported Of Children Murdered, Raped, Sold For Prostitution Or Tortured That Somehow Continue In Communities Across The Country And The World.

Reports Of Abuse Get Investigated, Filed And These Children Still Suffer At The Hands Of Their Abusers. Neighbors, Friends And Family Members Do Not Take The Appropriate Action And Get Involved. We Must Do Better. Not Only For The Pure Humanitarian Purpose Of Protecting These Children, But Also For The Social Purpose. We Can Not Allow Our Cultures To Continue To Deteriorate Into An Apathetic Society.

Contribution by Steve Cosentino @helpspreadthis